I am not a Super Parent. Try though I might to Do The Right Thing, I’ve failed on many fronts. I did breastfeed both of my kids through their first year; I did use cloth diapers exclusively. But I had a tough time being consistent with household rules. I used the Electronic Babysitter (videos, PBS) for some much-needed solace when they were little. I (occasionally) let them dine on fast food.
But this is not the time or place for my True Confessions of Mediocre Parenting. Rather, I want to make the following (very important) point: That, despite my glaring faults as a mother, I did one MAJOR thing right: I’ve always stayed connected with my kids. And, even though I recognize that this could be the ultimate rationalization, it’s my belief that that accomplishment just about trumps all others. It’s the one that, in addition to loving your kids unconditionally, is a MUST of successful parenting.
My boys are 19 and 17 now. They are loving, moral, responsible young men. They actually LIKE hanging out with their parents. I’m clinging to those realities – and trying to forgive myself for my many parenting transgressions over the years.
In our January issue we discuss the importance of establishing family rituals (page 12) and of making time for our tweens and teens (page 16) – two pivotal strategies in making and keeping that essential kid-parent connection. And Emily Moser of Oregon Partnership has provided us with an online feature with other ideas on staying connected with your kids. Take the time to look at these articles. And then make a New Year’s Resolution to stay connected with your children. You will never regret it…
Submitted by Marie

January 15th, 2009 | Category: Metro Parent